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Updated: Feb 24, 2021
As parents and educators, we play a big role in ensuring that our children feel loved and accepted for who they are. When disclosing their gender diverse identity, children long for immediate acceptance and understanding, whether that be from parents, teachers, friends or classmates.
Below is a comprehensive list brought to us by Camellia's Diversity, Equity and Inclusion committee. Please take a moment to read and feel free to pass along to friends and family.
Books for Children
Specifically on gender creative and trans issues:
All I Want is to be Me (All identities) https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1452818258
The Gender Wheel (All identities) http://www.reflectionpress.com/our-books/the-gender-wheel/
Be Who You Are (general acceptance of differences)
http://www.amazon.com/Who-You-Are-Jennifer-Carr/dp/1452087253
Sex is a Funny Word (covers many issues around sex and bodies)
http://www.amazon.com/Sex-Funny-Word-Bodies-Feelings/dp/1609806069
The Gender Book (YA/Teen)
http://www.thegenderbook.com/shop/4581834550/the-gender-book/7360426
They He She Me (All identities)
http://www.reflectionpress.com/our-books/they-she-he-me/
Who Are You?: The Kid's Guide to Gender Identity (All identities)
https://www.amazon.com/Who-Are-You-Gender-Identity/dp/1785927280
Note: there is evidence that some of this book (and very specifically the gender wheel included) was taken from The Gender Wheel by Maya Christina Gonzalez.
Read Maya's post here:
http://www.mayagonzalez.com/blog/2018/05/gender-work-stolen-childrens-book-industry/
47,000 Beads (Two-Spirit)
Part of Flamingo Rampant's Celebration series
https://flamingo-rampant-lgbt2q-childrens-books-celebratio.backerkit.com/hosted_preorders/101975
Meet Polkadot (genderfluid) http://dangerdot.com/faq-the-polkadot-series/
The Prince and the Dressmaker (genderfluid, graphic novel)
https://www.amazon.com/Prince-Dressmaker-Jen-Wang/dp/162672363X
About Chris: (trans boy) https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1514195895
Stacey's Not a Girl (trans boy) http://coltkeo-meier.com/book/
The Pants Project (trans boy, preteen)
https://www.amazon.com/Pants-Project-Cat-Clarke/dp/1492638099
The Adventures of Tina & Jordan (trans girl and trans boy)
http://www.amazon.com/Adventures-Tina-Jordan-Jessica-Lam/dp/1483667669
When Kathy Is Keith (trans boy)
http://www.amazon.com/When-Kathy-Keith-Wallace-Wong/dp/1465371419/
When Kayla Was Kyle (trans girl)
http://www.amazon.com/When-Kayla-Was-Kyle-Fabrikant/dp/1612861547
Lily and Dunkin (trans girl, YA)
https://www.amazon.com/Lily-Dunkin-Donna-Gephart/dp/0553536745
Backwards Day (trans girl)
http://www.amazon.com/Backwards-Day-S-Bear-Bergman/dp/0987976311
The Adventures of Tulip, Birthday Wish Fairy (trans girl)
http://www.amazon.com/Adventures-Tulip-Birthday-Wish-Fairy/dp/0987976303
Luna (trans girl, YA) http://www.amazon.com/Luna-Julie-Anne-Peters/dp/0316011274
Wandering Son (trans girl and trans boy, YA) http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1606994166/
10,000 Dresses (trans girl) https://www.amazon.com/10-000-Dresses-Marcus-Ewert/dp/1583228500
I am Jazz (trans girl) https://www.amazon.com/I-Am-Jazz-Jessica-Herthel/dp/0803741073
Rachel's Christmas Boat (Parent is trans woman)
Part of Flamingo Rampant's Celebration series
https://flamingo-rampant-lgbt2q-childrens-books-celebratio.backerkit.com/hosted_preorders/101975
Introducing Teddy: A Gentle Story About Gender and Friendship (teddybear is trans girl)
http://www.bloomsbury.com/us/introducing-teddy-9781681192116/
Coded and Metaphorical
Red: A Crayon's Story (coded gender discussion)
https://www.amazon.com/Red-Crayons-Story-Michael-Hall/dp/0062252070
Spork (coded gender discussion)
https://www.amazon.com/Spork-Kyo-Maclear/dp/1771388056
Goblinheart (coded gender discussion)
http://www.amazon.com/Goblinheart-Fairy-Tale-Brett-Axel/dp/0976977125/
When Leonard Lost His Spots (coded gender discussion)
http://www.amazon.com/When-Leonard-Lost-His-Spots/dp/0985106719/
Bunnybear (coded gender discussion)
https://www.amazon.com/Bunnybear-Andrea-J-Loney/dp/0807509388
On gender stereotypes
Julián Is a Mermaid / Sirenas (Afro-latino main character!)
https://www.amazon.com/Julian-Mermaid-Jessica-Love/dp/0763690457
My Princess Boy (Black main character!)
https://www.amazon.com/My-Princess-Boy-Cheryl-Kilodavis/dp/1442429887
Unico Como Yo / One of a Kind Like Me (Latino main character!)
http://www.bloodorangepress.com/shop/one-of-a-kind-like-me/
Oliver Button Is a Sissy
http://www.amazon.com/Oliver-Button-Sissy-Tomie-dePaola/dp/0156681404
Roland Humphrey is Wearing a WHAT?
http://www.amazon.com/Roland-Humphrey-Wearing-Eileen-Kiernan-Johnson/dp/0615666558
Jacob's New Dress
http://www.amazon.com/Jacobs-New-Dress-Sarah-Hoffman/dp/0807563730
William's Doll
http://www.amazon.com/Williams-Doll-Charlotte-Zolotow/dp/0064430677
A Girl Named Dan http://www.amazon.com/Girl-Named-Dan-Picture-Books/dp/1585363510
Pugdog http://www.amazon.com/Pugdog-Andrea-URen/dp/0374361495
Morris Micklewhite and the Tangerine Dress
https://www.amazon.com/Morris-Micklewhite-Tangerine-Christine-Baldacchino/
Is that for a Boy or a Girl? https://www.amazon.com/That-Boy-Girl-Bear-Bergman/dp/B01LVWLK0O/
Es de Chica o de Chico? https://flamingo-rampant-lgbt2q-childrens-books-celebratio.backerkit.com/hosted_preorders/101975
I'm a Girl!/Soy Una Niña!
https://www.amazon.com/Im-Girl-Yasmeen-Ismail/dp/1619639750
https://www.amazon.com/Soy-niña-Spanish-Yasmeen-Ismail/dp/8484705358
They He She Me (All identities)
http://www.reflectionpress.com/our-books/they-she-he-me/
Books For Adults
Gender Diversity and LGBTQ Inclusion in K-12 Schools https://www.routledge.com/Gender-Diversity-and-LGBTQ-Inclusion-in-K-12-Schools-A-Guide-to-Supporting/Chappell-Ketchum-Richardson/p/book/9781138044517
Becoming Nicole: The Transformation of an American Family https://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Nicole-Transformation-American-Family/dp/0812995430
The Gender Creative Child: Pathways for Nurturing and Supporting Children Who Live Outside Gender Boxes https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1615193065
The Transgender Child: A Handbook for Families and Professionals http://www.amazon.com/The-Transgender-Child-Handbook-Professionals/dp/1573443182
Gender Born, Gender Made: Raising Healthy Gender-Nonconforming Children http://www.amazon.com/Gender-Born-Made-Gender-Nonconforming-Children/dp/1615190600
Helping Your Transgender Teen: A Guide for Parents http://www.amazon.com/Helping-Your-Transgender-Teen-Parents/dp/069201229X
Transitions of the Heart: Stories of Love, Struggle and Acceptance by Mothers of Transgender and Gender Variant Children http://www.amazon.com/Transitions-Heart-Struggle-Acceptance-Transgender/dp/1573447889
Raising My Rainbow: Adventures in Raising a Fabulous, Gender Creative Son http://www.amazon.com/Raising-My-Rainbow-Adventures-Fabulous/dp/0770437729
A Guide to Gender book for kids http://www.guidetogender.com/
Handling Transphobia:Transphobia: Deal With It http://www.lorimer.ca/childrens/Book/2892/Transphobia.html
Trans Kids: Being Gendered in the 21st Century (academic)
https://www.ucpress.edu/book/9780520275041/trans-kids
Websites/Resources:
Transgender Child: Information for Parents and Families, http://www.transgenderchild.net
Gender Spectrum https://www.genderspectrum.org/
Gender Spectrum Resource List https://www.genderspectrum.org/resources
Gender Spectrum Principles of Gender-Inclusive Puberty and Health Education https://www.genderspectrum.org/staging/wp-content/uploads/2019/02/GenderSpectrum_2019_report_WEB_final.pdf
Stepping Stones http://www.meetup.com/Stepping-Stones/
Banks Street College Resource List http://libguides.bankstreet.edu/transchildren
National Center for Transgender Equality http://www.transequality.org/
Model District Policy on Transgender and Gender Nonconforming Students
http://www.transequality.org/PDFs/Trans_ModelPolicy_2013.pdf
Family Equality Council (advocacy for LGBTQ+ families) https://www.familyequality.org/
Videos on being a supportive parent to a trans child from UC Santa Barbara https://ucsbeducation.az1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_1XNFHqOhc6jhSPb
Jessica Kingsley Publishers list of books on gender diversity for children and adults https://www.jkp.com/uk/gender-diversity.html
Nonbinary/Beyond the Binary
Alok Vaid-Menon https://www.alokvmenon.com/
Jacob Tobia https://jacobtobia.com/
The FemmeBoi https://www.thefemmeboi.com/
Afro-Genderqueer http://www.afrogenderqueer.com/
Teaching about Gender Creativity
LGBTQ Family and Gender Diversity Elementary Teaching Guide, school year 2018-2019 https://docs.google.com/document/d/18OQ7tU9DPED_yUqVqbGLWK-_U2E_4ZFxmoG0SUo3ePI/edit?ts=5bcf83d5#heading=h.1idls714ogty
Transwhat? https://transwhat.org/
Trans 101 - The Basics https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-3ZzpTxjgRw
Transgender Basics https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UXI9w0PbBXY
Teaching Transgender http://transequality.org/Resources/NCTE_Teaching_Transgender.pdf
Understanding Transgender FAQ http://transequality.org/Resources/NCTE_UnderstandingTrans.pdf
Transgender Terminology http://transequality.org/Resources/TransTerminology_2014.pdf
Gingerbread Person 2.0
http://itspronouncedmetrosexual.com/2012/03/the-genderbread-person-v2-0/
Sex is a Funny Word
http://www.amazon.com/Sex-Funny-Word-Bodies-Feelings/dp/1609806069
Laurin Mayeno consulting http://www.mayenoconsulting.com/wordpress/services/
Parent Blogs:
George. Jessie. Love http://georgejessielove.wordpress.com/
Transparenthood http://transparenthood.net/
Today You are You http://todayyouareyou.com/
Raising My Rainbow http://raisingmyrainbow.com/
Accepting Dad http://www.acceptingdad.com/
Gender Mom http://gendermom.wordpress.com/
Articles
Department Of Education Issues Guidelines To Protect Transgender Students In Single-Sex Classrooms
S/He
Why parents of transgender children are faced with a difficult decision, and it’s one they have to make sooner than they ever imagined.
https://nymag.com/news/features/transgender-children-2012-6/
Transgender at five
http://www.washingtonpost.com/local/transgender-at-five/2012/05/19/gIQABfFkbU_story.html
She Never Was a Boy http://www.huffingtonpost.com/karen-adams/she-never-was-a-boy_b_4897020.html
Transgender student takes national stage
https://www.bostonglobe.com/lifestyle/2014/02/18/transgender/ZIgZQ2cSOIU9nlIEQ6ultN/story.html
When Girls Will Be Boys
http://www.nytimes.com/2008/03/16/magazine/16students-t.html
Dispute on Transgender Rights Unfolds at a Colorado School (Coy Mathis)
http://www.nytimes.com/2013/03/18/us/in-colorado-a-legal-dispute-over-transgender-rights.html
About a Girl: Coy Mathis' Fight to Change Gender
Coy Mathis on Katie Couric http://katiecouric.com/tag/coy-mathis/
Rights Unit Finds Bias Against Transgender Student
Sam Smith Comes Out as Nonbinary, Genderqueer https://www.advocate.com/gender/2019/3/15/sam-smith-comes-out-non-binary-genderqueer
Ezra Miller is the Genderbending, Goat-Delivering Hollywood Star of the Future https://www.gq.com/story/ezra-miller-gq-style-cover-story (on being queer/poly/nonbinary)
27 Percent of California Teens Are Gender Nonconforming
A Mom’s Letter To Her “Gender-Creative” Son’s Pre-Kindergarten Class
https://www.bgdblog.org/2015/10/a-moms-letter-to-her-gender-creative-sons-first-grade-class/