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Gender-Diverse & Transgender Children Resources



As parents and educators, we play a big role in ensuring that our children feel loved and accepted for who they are. When disclosing their gender diverse identity, children long for immediate acceptance and understanding, whether that be from parents, teachers, friends or classmates.


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Below is a comprehensive list brought to us by Camellia's Diversity, Equity and Inclusion committee. Please take a moment to read and feel free to pass along to friends and family.


Books for Children

Specifically on gender creative and trans issues:

All I Want is to be Me (All identities) https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1452818258


The Gender Wheel (All identities) http://www.reflectionpress.com/our-books/the-gender-wheel/


Be Who You Are (general acceptance of differences)

http://www.amazon.com/Who-You-Are-Jennifer-Carr/dp/1452087253


Sex is a Funny Word (covers many issues around sex and bodies)

http://www.amazon.com/Sex-Funny-Word-Bodies-Feelings/dp/1609806069


The Gender Book (YA/Teen)

http://www.thegenderbook.com/shop/4581834550/the-gender-book/7360426


They He She Me (All identities)

http://www.reflectionpress.com/our-books/they-she-he-me/


Who Are You?: The Kid's Guide to Gender Identity (All identities)

https://www.amazon.com/Who-Are-You-Gender-Identity/dp/1785927280


Note: there is evidence that some of this book (and very specifically the gender wheel included) was taken from The Gender Wheel by Maya Christina Gonzalez. Read Maya's post here:

http://www.mayagonzalez.com/blog/2018/05/gender-work-stolen-childrens-book-industry/


47,000 Beads (Two-Spirit)

Part of Flamingo Rampant's Celebration series

https://flamingo-rampant-lgbt2q-childrens-books-celebratio.backerkit.com/hosted_preorders/101975


Meet Polkadot (genderfluid) http://dangerdot.com/faq-the-polkadot-series/


The Prince and the Dressmaker (genderfluid, graphic novel)

https://www.amazon.com/Prince-Dressmaker-Jen-Wang/dp/162672363X


About Chris: (trans boy) https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1514195895


Stacey's Not a Girl (trans boy) http://coltkeo-meier.com/book/


The Pants Project (trans boy, preteen)

https://www.amazon.com/Pants-Project-Cat-Clarke/dp/1492638099


The Adventures of Tina & Jordan (trans girl and trans boy)

http://www.amazon.com/Adventures-Tina-Jordan-Jessica-Lam/dp/1483667669


When Kathy Is Keith (trans boy)

http://www.amazon.com/When-Kathy-Keith-Wallace-Wong/dp/1465371419/


When Kayla Was Kyle (trans girl)

http://www.amazon.com/When-Kayla-Was-Kyle-Fabrikant/dp/1612861547


Lily and Dunkin (trans girl, YA)

https://www.amazon.com/Lily-Dunkin-Donna-Gephart/dp/0553536745


Backwards Day (trans girl)

http://www.amazon.com/Backwards-Day-S-Bear-Bergman/dp/0987976311


The Adventures of Tulip, Birthday Wish Fairy (trans girl)

http://www.amazon.com/Adventures-Tulip-Birthday-Wish-Fairy/dp/0987976303


Luna (trans girl, YA) http://www.amazon.com/Luna-Julie-Anne-Peters/dp/0316011274


Wandering Son (trans girl and trans boy, YA) http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1606994166/


10,000 Dresses (trans girl) https://www.amazon.com/10-000-Dresses-Marcus-Ewert/dp/1583228500


I am Jazz (trans girl) https://www.amazon.com/I-Am-Jazz-Jessica-Herthel/dp/0803741073


Rachel's Christmas Boat (Parent is trans woman)

Part of Flamingo Rampant's Celebration series

https://flamingo-rampant-lgbt2q-childrens-books-celebratio.backerkit.com/hosted_preorders/101975


Introducing Teddy: A Gentle Story About Gender and Friendship (teddybear is trans girl)

http://www.bloomsbury.com/us/introducing-teddy-9781681192116/


Coded and Metaphorical


Red: A Crayon's Story (coded gender discussion)

https://www.amazon.com/Red-Crayons-Story-Michael-Hall/dp/0062252070


Spork (coded gender discussion)

https://www.amazon.com/Spork-Kyo-Maclear/dp/1771388056


Goblinheart (coded gender discussion)

http://www.amazon.com/Goblinheart-Fairy-Tale-Brett-Axel/dp/0976977125/


When Leonard Lost His Spots (coded gender discussion)

http://www.amazon.com/When-Leonard-Lost-His-Spots/dp/0985106719/


Bunnybear (coded gender discussion)

https://www.amazon.com/Bunnybear-Andrea-J-Loney/dp/0807509388


On gender stereotypes


Julián Is a Mermaid / Sirenas (Afro-latino main character!)

https://www.amazon.com/Julian-Mermaid-Jessica-Love/dp/0763690457


My Princess Boy (Black main character!)

https://www.amazon.com/My-Princess-Boy-Cheryl-Kilodavis/dp/1442429887


Unico Como Yo / One of a Kind Like Me (Latino main character!)

http://www.bloodorangepress.com/shop/one-of-a-kind-like-me/


Oliver Button Is a Sissy

http://www.amazon.com/Oliver-Button-Sissy-Tomie-dePaola/dp/0156681404


Roland Humphrey is Wearing a WHAT?

http://www.amazon.com/Roland-Humphrey-Wearing-Eileen-Kiernan-Johnson/dp/0615666558


Jacob's New Dress

http://www.amazon.com/Jacobs-New-Dress-Sarah-Hoffman/dp/0807563730


William's Doll

http://www.amazon.com/Williams-Doll-Charlotte-Zolotow/dp/0064430677


A Girl Named Dan http://www.amazon.com/Girl-Named-Dan-Picture-Books/dp/1585363510


Pugdog http://www.amazon.com/Pugdog-Andrea-URen/dp/0374361495


Morris Micklewhite and the Tangerine Dress

https://www.amazon.com/Morris-Micklewhite-Tangerine-Christine-Baldacchino/


Is that for a Boy or a Girl? https://www.amazon.com/That-Boy-Girl-Bear-Bergman/dp/B01LVWLK0O/


Es de Chica o de Chico? https://flamingo-rampant-lgbt2q-childrens-books-celebratio.backerkit.com/hosted_preorders/101975


I'm a Girl!/Soy Una Niña!

https://www.amazon.com/Im-Girl-Yasmeen-Ismail/dp/1619639750

https://www.amazon.com/Soy-niña-Spanish-Yasmeen-Ismail/dp/8484705358


They He She Me (All identities)

http://www.reflectionpress.com/our-books/they-she-he-me/


Books For Adults

Gender Diversity and LGBTQ Inclusion in K-12 Schools https://www.routledge.com/Gender-Diversity-and-LGBTQ-Inclusion-in-K-12-Schools-A-Guide-to-Supporting/Chappell-Ketchum-Richardson/p/book/9781138044517


Becoming Nicole: The Transformation of an American Family https://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Nicole-Transformation-American-Family/dp/0812995430


The Gender Creative Child: Pathways for Nurturing and Supporting Children Who Live Outside Gender Boxes https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1615193065


The Transgender Child: A Handbook for Families and Professionals http://www.amazon.com/The-Transgender-Child-Handbook-Professionals/dp/1573443182


Gender Born, Gender Made: Raising Healthy Gender-Nonconforming Children http://www.amazon.com/Gender-Born-Made-Gender-Nonconforming-Children/dp/1615190600


Helping Your Transgender Teen: A Guide for Parents http://www.amazon.com/Helping-Your-Transgender-Teen-Parents/dp/069201229X


Transitions of the Heart: Stories of Love, Struggle and Acceptance by Mothers of Transgender and Gender Variant Children http://www.amazon.com/Transitions-Heart-Struggle-Acceptance-Transgender/dp/1573447889


Raising My Rainbow: Adventures in Raising a Fabulous, Gender Creative Son http://www.amazon.com/Raising-My-Rainbow-Adventures-Fabulous/dp/0770437729


A Guide to Gender book for kids http://www.guidetogender.com/


Handling Transphobia:Transphobia: Deal With It http://www.lorimer.ca/childrens/Book/2892/Transphobia.html


Trans Kids: Being Gendered in the 21st Century (academic)

https://www.ucpress.edu/book/9780520275041/trans-kids


Websites/Resources:

Transgender Child: Information for Parents and Families, http://www.transgenderchild.net


Gender Spectrum https://www.genderspectrum.org/


Gender Spectrum Resource List https://www.genderspectrum.org/resources


Gender Spectrum Principles of Gender-Inclusive Puberty and Health Education https://www.genderspectrum.org/staging/wp-content/uploads/2019/02/GenderSpectrum_2019_report_WEB_final.pdf


Stepping Stones http://www.meetup.com/Stepping-Stones/


Banks Street College Resource List http://libguides.bankstreet.edu/transchildren


National Center for Transgender Equality http://www.transequality.org/


Model District Policy on Transgender and Gender Nonconforming Students

http://www.transequality.org/PDFs/Trans_ModelPolicy_2013.pdf


Family Equality Council (advocacy for LGBTQ+ families) https://www.familyequality.org/


Videos on being a supportive parent to a trans child from UC Santa Barbara https://ucsbeducation.az1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_1XNFHqOhc6jhSPb


Jessica Kingsley Publishers list of books on gender diversity for children and adults https://www.jkp.com/uk/gender-diversity.html


Nonbinary/Beyond the Binary


Alok Vaid-Menon https://www.alokvmenon.com/


Jacob Tobia https://jacobtobia.com/


The FemmeBoi https://www.thefemmeboi.com/


Afro-Genderqueer http://www.afrogenderqueer.com/


Teaching about Gender Creativity


LGBTQ Family and Gender Diversity Elementary Teaching Guide, school year 2018-2019 https://docs.google.com/document/d/18OQ7tU9DPED_yUqVqbGLWK-_U2E_4ZFxmoG0SUo3ePI/edit?ts=5bcf83d5#heading=h.1idls714ogty


Transwhat? https://transwhat.org/


Trans 101 - The Basics https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-3ZzpTxjgRw


Transgender Basics https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UXI9w0PbBXY


Teaching Transgender http://transequality.org/Resources/NCTE_Teaching_Transgender.pdf


Understanding Transgender FAQ http://transequality.org/Resources/NCTE_UnderstandingTrans.pdf


Transgender Terminology http://transequality.org/Resources/TransTerminology_2014.pdf


Gingerbread Person 2.0

http://itspronouncedmetrosexual.com/2012/03/the-genderbread-person-v2-0/


Sex is a Funny Word

http://www.amazon.com/Sex-Funny-Word-Bodies-Feelings/dp/1609806069


Laurin Mayeno consulting http://www.mayenoconsulting.com/wordpress/services/


Parent Blogs:


George. Jessie. Love http://georgejessielove.wordpress.com/


Transparenthood http://transparenthood.net/


Today You are You http://todayyouareyou.com/


Raising My Rainbow http://raisingmyrainbow.com/


Accepting Dad http://www.acceptingdad.com/


Gender Mom http://gendermom.wordpress.com/


Articles

Department Of Education Issues Guidelines To Protect Transgender Students In Single-Sex Classrooms

https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/dominicholden/department-of-education-issues-guidelines-to-protect-transge


S/He

Why parents of transgender children are faced with a difficult decision, and it’s one they have to make sooner than they ever imagined.

https://nymag.com/news/features/transgender-children-2012-6/


Transgender at five

http://www.washingtonpost.com/local/transgender-at-five/2012/05/19/gIQABfFkbU_story.html


She Never Was a Boy http://www.huffingtonpost.com/karen-adams/she-never-was-a-boy_b_4897020.html


Transgender student takes national stage

https://www.bostonglobe.com/lifestyle/2014/02/18/transgender/ZIgZQ2cSOIU9nlIEQ6ultN/story.html


When Girls Will Be Boys

http://www.nytimes.com/2008/03/16/magazine/16students-t.html


Dispute on Transgender Rights Unfolds at a Colorado School (Coy Mathis)

http://www.nytimes.com/2013/03/18/us/in-colorado-a-legal-dispute-over-transgender-rights.html


About a Girl: Coy Mathis' Fight to Change Gender

http://www.rollingstone.com/culture/news/about-a-girl-coy-mathis-fight-to-change-change-gender-20131028


Coy Mathis on Katie Couric http://katiecouric.com/tag/coy-mathis/


Rights Unit Finds Bias Against Transgender Student

http://www.nytimes.com/2013/06/24/us/agency-says-district-discriminated-against-transgender-student.html


Sam Smith Comes Out as Nonbinary, Genderqueer https://www.advocate.com/gender/2019/3/15/sam-smith-comes-out-non-binary-genderqueer


Ezra Miller is the Genderbending, Goat-Delivering Hollywood Star of the Future https://www.gq.com/story/ezra-miller-gq-style-cover-story (on being queer/poly/nonbinary)


27 Percent of California Teens Are Gender Nonconforming

https://broadly.vice.com/en_us/article/a3j7kp/27-percent-of-california-teens-are-gender-nonconforming


A Mom’s Letter To Her “Gender-Creative” Son’s Pre-Kindergarten Class

https://www.bgdblog.org/2015/10/a-moms-letter-to-her-gender-creative-sons-first-grade-class/



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